LifeGroup Questions: Applying the Teaching to Our Life

  1. Is my walk with Christ conduct or condition driven?
  2. Are the members of my family seeing their walk with Christ through the lens of “rules” or “relationship?” What can I do to message better that Christ desires to be in relationship with us?
  3. What are the four words that share the big story of the Bible?  Why are they important?
  4. What would be a life group verse that we can claim together?
  5. What is one thing that I will do to message my families purpose?
  6. What is one way that I can allow others to see my gratitude for God’s redemptive work in my life?
  7. Commit to reading with your family the Proverb that correlates to the date of the month.  Ask your family the following question: What did I read today that changes the way I think and/or feel in order to become more like

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Practical Parenting
Shepherding from Rules to Relationship
Proverbs 22:6; Deuteronomy 6:1-25

Order Matters: Rules, Relationship, Based

Before we begin…

  • Parenting our children is a biblical mandate that is an intentional process.
  • The stakes are high.
  • We want to know more about how to assist our children in becoming like Christ.

Rules- based  Relationship

  • Priority is in following the rules.
  • blinded to the relationship
  • Conduct Driven
  • Results…

                        Rebellion The younger brother experience…

                        Resentment The older brother experience

                        Rejection  I never knew you…

Relationship based Rules

  • Priority is in the relationship
  • Recognize the rules are there for boundaries (Romans 6:1)
  • Condition driven
  • Results: Biblical Safeguards for my life (John 10:10)

Condition driven, Relationship-based parenting begins with the understanding of the big story of the Bible.

The Big Story of the Bible

  • Creation: Perfection
  • Fall: Corruption
  • Redemption: Restoration
  • Image of God: Our responsibility

How do we get them there?

Be relationally driven using a simple model of I do, We do, You do.

I do: Be an example…

  • Of being a learner (Deut. 6:3)
  • Of intentional living (Deut. 6:4)
  • Of gratitude (Deut. 6:5,6)

We do: Intentional.

  • Intentional conversations
  • Intentional traditions

You do:

  • Let them ask
  • Answer relationally

Core CHRISTlike Characteristic: Connected to God through Word and Prayer, Spirit-led Servant