The Sacred Overlap
“Core Fathering Skills”
1 Thessalonians 2:11-12
- Fathering is discipling/Discipling is fathering
- Fathering is using loving authority to help your kids live lives that honor God
- Discipling is helping people follow Jesus
- Your kids have been called into God’s kingdom to follow Jesus
- How do you disciple them?
- Fathers disciple their kids by encouraging them
- Presence: Fathers come alongside their kids to help them follow Jesus
- Words: Fathers speak into their kids’ lives to help them follow Jesus
- Support: Fathers strengthen their kids to help them follow Jesus
- Fathers disciple their kids by comforting them
- Words spoken to calm them
- Words spoken to comfort them
- Words spoken to cheer them on
- Fathers disciple their kids by urging/challenging them
- Challenge them from your life
- Urge them to never give up following Jesus
- Urge them to keep trusting God
Core CHRISTlike Characteristic: Relates with Other-centered Love/Loving People
- If you’re a father, what’s your favorite tool?
If not, what do you think was your father’s favorite tool?
- What is your favorite memory of your father cheering you on?
- Why do you think the Bible uses the language of family and parenting so much when it talks about spiritual growth, discipleship and helping others grow spiritually?
- When you’re discouraged or down, do you respond best to someone encouraging you, comforting you or urging/challenging you?
- Paul isn’t writing to fathers in 1 Thessalonians 2:11-12, he’s using an analogy of how he acted like a father among the Thessalonians as he helped them grow in Christ.
As such, this is applicable to all of us. With that in mind, of the three ways Paul said he acted “like a father” (encouraging, comforting and urging), which one of the three do you find yourself doing the most for those you are helping to grow in Christ?
- Which of the three do you find yourself most in need of today?
If you’re comfortable, share why.
- Close your LifeGroup together by praying for each other based on the responses to question 6.